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Michigan · Holiday Parenting Time · Updated August 2026

Who gets Christmas? Whatever your order says.

Every November, family law phones start ringing with the same question. The answer surprises most parents: Michigan has no statewide holiday schedule, and Oakland County publishes no county default at all — your judgment controls the holidays entirely. Here's how holiday parenting time actually works, what typical orders provide, and what to do when a holiday is withheld.

The Oakland County reality

No county guideline. Your order is everything.

Some Michigan counties publish Friend of the Court parenting time guidelines with default holiday schedules — Macomb's guideline alternates holidays and school breaks, and other counties publish schedules down to the hour. Oakland County does not publish a county parenting time guideline. The statewide Michigan Parenting Time Guideline exists as a drafting reference, but it is not a binding schedule.

What this means in practice: in Oakland County, if your order doesn't address a holiday, that holiday simply follows the regular weekly schedule — whoever's ordinary parenting time covers December 25th has December 25th. There is no county default to fall back on. That makes explicit, hour-by-hour holiday drafting more important in Oakland than almost anywhere else in Michigan — and it's where inexperienced drafting creates years of Christmas-morning conflict.

The typical structure

How Michigan orders usually divide holidays

Most well-drafted Michigan judgments alternate major holidays by odd and even years, define exact start and end times, and state that holiday time takes priority over the regular schedule. The table below shows a common structure — as an illustration of typical drafting, not a default that applies to any case.

Illustration of a common Michigan holiday parenting time structure. This is an example of typical drafting only — Michigan has no statewide or Oakland County default schedule; each family's court order controls.
HolidayOdd yearsEven yearsTypical period
New Year's Eve / DayParent AParent BDec 30, 6 pm – Jan 1, 9 pm
Easter / spring holidayParent BParent A9 am – 7 pm
Memorial Day weekendParent AParent BFri 6 pm – Mon 7 pm
Fourth of JulyParent BParent AJul 3, 6 pm – Jul 5, 9 am
Labor Day weekendParent BParent AFri 6 pm – Mon 7 pm
HalloweenParent AParent B4 pm – 8 pm
ThanksgivingParent AParent BWed 6 pm – Fri 9 am
Christmas EveParent AParent BDec 23, 6 pm – Dec 24, 9 pm
Christmas DayParent BParent ADec 24, 9 pm – Dec 26, 9 am
Winter break (balance)Divided equallyPer the order's split
Spring breakParent AParent BFull break, alternating
Mother's DayMother — every year9 am – 7 pm
Father's DayFather — every year9 am – 7 pm
Child's birthdayParent AParent BVaries; some orders share the day
Summer parenting timeEach parentOften 2–4 uninterrupted weeks with advance written notice

Four rules of thumb from real orders

1. Holiday time beats the regular schedule. Nearly all orders say holiday and break provisions take priority — if Christmas falls on the other parent's regular weekend, the Christmas parent still gets Christmas, and the rotation resumes without makeup time unless the order says otherwise.

2. Mother's Day and Father's Day don't alternate. Almost universally, each parent has their own day every year, overriding everything else.

3. The Christmas Eve / Christmas Day split is the workhorse. Splitting the two and swapping annually gives each parent a Christmas morning every other year — and precise transfer times (9 pm vs. "evening") are what prevent the annual argument.

4. Silence is the enemy. Halloween, birthdays, three-day school weekends, Eid, Diwali, and other religious holidays only exist in your schedule if your order names them. Whatever matters to your family belongs in the judgment, with times.

When it goes wrong

If a holiday is withheld

Holiday withholding is the most common parenting time violation of the year — and the most emotionally loaded. What you do in the first hour determines whether you have an enforceable record or just a bad memory.

The holidays your order is silent on are the ones you'll fight about.

Whether you're drafting a new parenting time order, fixing a vague one, or enforcing a holiday that was withheld — we handle these matters in the Oakland County Family Division every week. Don't spend another December negotiating from a weak order.

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